Motherhood did not make me less capable.
It made my life more complex - and eventually forced me to learn skills that let all of that capability feel less exhausting.
For the first three decades of my life, I knew how to succeed.
Work hard, prepare, make the plan. Do excellent work and try harder when something isn't working.
That operating system got me through school, degrees, a career I was proud of, relationships, and a home and a life that felt capable and full.
Then I had two babies...
Motherhood was identity-shattering for me.
I couldn't wake up earlier or stay up later to catch up. There was always more to do. I felt like I was failing at things as basic as feeding my kids. I felt uncomfortable in my postpartum body. I was overwhelmed, anxious and resentful - and terrified that the capable version of me had disappeared.
Because I was a perfectionist, I did what perfectionists do when life stops cooperating.
I tried harder.
I read more parenting books. Made better schedules. Tried to get more organized. Tried to anticipate more problems. Tried to control more variables. Put more pressure on myself.
Then I judged myself when I still couldn't make motherhood feel the way I thought it should.
Eventually, I realized I didn't need to get better at controlling my life.
I needed a different way to use everything I was already capable of.
During those long nights feeding and rocking babies, I found a specific self-coaching model developed by my teacher that has been used to help transform thousands of lives.
It was surprisingly simple. And that was part of what made it powerful.
It gave me a way to slow down what was happening inside my own head, understand why I was feeling and responding the way I was, and decide what I wanted to do next.
It felt a little like someone had pulled back the curtain on a great therapy or coaching session and taught me how to begin supporting myself in the moment.
Not instead of therapy. Not instead of coaching. But in all the hours of my life when my therapist or coach wasn't sitting next to me.
I finally had somewhere to go with my own brain.
That became the work.
Eventually, I trained as a coach. I've now spent six years coaching hundreds of clients - especially working moms -
through careers, marriages, motherhood, bodies, ambition, burnout, difficult emotions, change and the constant
feeling that they should somehow be doing all of it better.
And I keep seeing the same patterns.
That's what became Choose Better Thoughts: one simple self-coaching model, one repeatable method - Acknowledge, Allow, Ask, Align - and ten skills for the moments that keep repeating.
This is about the woman you become after motherhood changes the rules.
Motherhood is where the old operating system often breaks. But the new skills are for everything that follows.
The promotion. The marriage. The friendship. The changing body. The teenager. The aging parent. The health
scare. The empty nest. The career pivot. The thing you want but are scared to admit you want.
I do not want you to become better at holding an ever-larger load. I want you to know yourself, trust yourself, support yourself - and choose the next chapter on purpose.
Why ease matters to me
I love personal development. I've bought the books, listened to the podcasts, hired coaches and taken the courses. I've finished some. I definitely haven't finished others.
The ideas that changed my life were not necessarily the ones with the most content. They were the ones I could access when I actually needed them.
So I want this work to be deep, rigorous and transformative - and easy enough to use while your actual life is happening.
START WITH FEEL BETTERThe experience that informs my coaching
- Certified Life Coach, The Life Coach School.
- ICF-certified Life & Leadership Coach.
- Advanced training in Leadership and Performance Coaching, Brown University.
- B.A. in Psychology, University of Virginia.
- Master of Public Policy, Georgetown University.
Here's how that shows up in the work.
FEEL BETTER
STABILIZE
For the working mom who is losing too much energy to overthinking, pressure, guilt, control and trying to hold
everything together.
You get:
- More calm and faster recovery.
- More focused work in less mental time.
- More presence and patience at home.
- More consistency with health and less food/workout chatter.
- Your time, attention and energy back.
12 weeks | $297
BUILD SOMETHING BIGGER
EXPAND
For the woman who has capacity again - or already knows she wants more - and does not want to fill the space with another list of shoulds.
You get:
- Clarity on what you actually want.
- One meaningful, measurable result.
- A realistic plan that fits your life.
- More courage around visibility, uncertainty, rejection and change.
- Evidence that you can create from desire instead of pressure.
12 weeks | $997
KEEP GOING
SUSTAIN
For former clients who know the tools and want ongoing coaching as life changes again.
You get:
- A way to catch old patterns before they take over.
- Ongoing connection to your desires and priorities.
- Coaching on new circumstances without a new giant curriculum.
- Support sustaining the woman you have become.
$97 per month
